Curing the Incurable

Most people when I show them how to talk with their body ask me how they can trust it. Most of the time you can totally trust your body. I mean let's face it if you are standing in the middle of a busy road it is going to get you out of harms way, if you stop and try to think your way out of the road or grab a pack of tarot cards you will end up as a hood ornamant. It's not a question of trusting your body, it is really about trusting yourself.

Most people don't trust themsleves. They have not been taught to trust their own knowing but have been swayed by society to place their trust in thoughts. How often have you been to a reader and  been told the answer rather than been empowered to trust YOU?  How often  have you already decided  how you  would like things to show up. Most people lie to themselves to get it the way they want it to be. if you have something that won't chnge then instead of trying to do the same things over and over again and fix it, you may have to change what it is you are doing.

Doubt and judgement are lies that stop you from trusting you.This is great to know because if a doubt starts to come in to your head you know it is a lie immidately, a trap ready to keep you in your sufferning.

So in a nutshell; you know when you are lying to yourself when their is doubt,when there are reasons and justifications and when it just feels plain heavy.

Once you start trusting you then you can start to receive everything, rather than coming to conclusion.

The trust card often comes up when people are either lacking this element about themselves or when they think somone maybe tell them porky pies (lies) and hence they don't trust them. But really it always comes down to your knowing. When you honour your knowing you will always trust you, and if you make a mistake then you can just choose again.

How can it get any better than that?

Gratitude is a beingness, it goes beyond human emotion. It is very expansive and when you are truly grateful you can not be in judgement. Gratitude does not require a reason or justifcation. Gratitude is being in total allowance of the beings in your life, that could be you, your body, another person, the planet, even a disease.

Once you have a moment of gratitude you can tap in to that energy over and over again. it is not some thing that can be taken from you, however you can choose not to be grateful. When you do this you are choosing unconsciousness, you are choosing judgement. This can often create pain and suffering in your life and in your body.

One of the things in becoming more aware is that you get to be aware of everything. You don't get to say 'I don't want that awareness because...', that is a judgement. This is where gratitude comes in to it's own, you can be in total alloawance of where you are, at the pain of the body, the suffering of others and still be grateful for being aware of all that.

Most people when asked what they are grateful for will give you a list of positve things, this is okay and is a good start, this still indicates that there can be a judgement holding that in place. A judgement that negative things are bad and positive things are good. Once you can be in gratitude for everything you will find that you have less and less judgements both of the negative and positive kinds. In choosing gratitiude you can start to create more and more space for your body to activate the healing processes.

What tools can you use to invite gratitiude in to your life? Who does this belong to ? And interesting point of view are 2 amazing techniques that you can use to open up to gratitude.

What else is possible?

The fourth element of healing intimacy is allownace. What is allowance? Is it going with the flow or is it perciving everything from an interesting point of view?

Going with the flow is one of those tricky phrases that over time people have taken and used in ways to justify not choosing. You may hear people say "It just wasn't meant to be!" Where is the choice in that?

Interesting point of view is perceiving everything with out aligning and agreeing or resiting and reacting to some thing or some one.

Most of the time we are not in allowance of our bodies especially if it is in disease or in pain. We have bought a point of view that pain or disease is wrong, that something is wrong. This takes a huge amount of energy to hold in place and is not honoring to the body. Ulimately we make our bodies wrong for pain or disease.

And then their are some of us that make ourselves wrong too, we have an awarenes like "Oh my god I have been judging the hell out of my body all these years" and then we beat our selves up for doing this creating even more judgement.

Would you be willing to be in allowance of your body? Would you be willing to be in allowance of you?

If you would like to say yes to these questions then you are half way there. If you want to say yes, but a but comes up or a no, then you are still half way there, because now you are aware of the judgements you can start the process of making different choices. There are tools to assit you in this, all you have to do is ask.

If a No comes up, If you don't want more choice, if you want to hold on to all your points of view and make your body wrong. That is totally okay with me, I am in total allowance of what ever you choose and when ever you choose it.

I had one client that started to get really sick again and she choose to ignore me, I did not react to it or align with it, I choose to be in total alowance of her. I could see the pain and suffering she was in and I knew that if I tried help her I would either align with her point of view that she was wrong and in pain or she would have resisted my help. That same lady is now totally cured. In the end she had the vulnerabilty to ask a question. In my allowance of her and her choices she stepped in to a new level of vulnerability and trust that she had never experienced before and in that her body started to heal

How does it get any better than that?

I hear you all quaking in your boots as I mention the word vulnerability. And that is because most people have idendified this term with suffering. Most people have had some sort of experience where they have been vulnerable and then been shot to pieces when they were.

Like the time you you stepped up in class and tried somethng new and  the teacher tore you to shreads, or when you opened your heart to another and they made you suffer...

Thats the point of creation, where we decided that vulnerability equates to not nice things happening. The not nice things happening then becomes our justification and reason for not being vulnerbable.

To deal with this we start to build a wall from our decision never to be vulneable again and we stop being vulnerable with ourselves and our bodies.

Vulnerability is not seen in this reality, by that I mean our socitey, as valuable. It is often misidentifieed as being weak. If you buy this point of view, this too will create more walls to being vulnerable. And as vulnerability is part of natural beingness you strart to cut your self off from that.

What if vulnerability actually had a power to it, what if you were to be so vulnerable with your body that you had no barriers to it. You would then feel everthing the body could gift to you.

Next time an ant crawls over you, instead of flicking it off, allow it to walk across your naked skin, feel it intensely. Vulnerability is being like the open wound with out any cover on it. You can feel it intensely. Have you ever noticed how a wound can heal when you are vulnerble enough to allow it to be what it requires?

This does not mean you should go round opening you heart to strangers, or not put a dressing on a wound, what it means is to be vulnerable enough  to ask questions to yourself that you don't want to hear the answers to, to feel your body intensely and to acknowledge where you have been less than nice to it.

I have some neat processes and tools to assit in this, but you have to be willling to ask the question.

What else is possible?

Initmacy is a term often used to describe the relationship between people. Usually it is mutally exclusive, that is most people have the point of view that one can only be intimate with a limited number of people. If you the being did not have this point of you may be able to perceive where your body is actually energetically initmate with just about every body around it. Bodies are in constant communication you just misidentify some of this a diseae or pain.

It is funny because though most people have the point of view that they can only be intimate with a few people they never have an intimate relationship with their body. Most people will judge their bodies to kingdom come, either it is right or it is wrong, and if the body talks to you with pain or disease we shut it up with drugs or complain about it.

Is there any honor in that? Honoring your body is not judging it and creating it as seperate from you, it is including it in your life. Asking your body questions about body things is honoring it. Giving it time each day to be with out you pushing it or abusing it with judgement is honoring it. Listening to it and caring for it is creating more space to be vulnerble with it. The more you honor your body the more gentle it will be with you.

Treating your body like a sack of potatoes is not honoring. Throwing it aorund, lugging it about, not listening is dishonorable.

Please do one thing a day to honor your body, a simple acknowldgement of what it has to put up with from you would be a start, and then you could thank it would be another and then caressing it would be abnother and not stuffing it with other peoples opinions would be yet another.

But don't do any of that, it may start to create the intimacy of healing and hell you wouldn't wan to do that, would you?

The five elements of healing intimacy are;

• HONOR
• TRUST
• VULNERABILITY
• ALLOWANCE
• GRATITUDE

Over the next 5 blogs we will explore each element in more depth, in the mean time I can tell you this; no one element is any greater than the other and none are seperate. They are all linked to gether like the rings in the olympic logo.

One of the greatest enemies to healing is judgement. If we liken the elements  all working together to create superman with a great body, and lots of abilities, then judgement is like Kryptonite. The more you judge your body, the dis-ease it is in, the more crippling the effect.

The funny thing is most people want to get rid of negative judgements and hold on to their positive ones. Ouch, judgement is judgement, kryptonite painted yellow is still kryptonite. If you are in dis-ease I can guarentee their is judgement or peice of kryptonite some where near by.

When you use the 5 elements of honor, trust, vulnerability, allowance and gratitude, then the kryptonite doesn't stand a chance. Oh and if you beat your self up because you just spotted your self judging then you have just judged you again.

Please be gentle on your self, on your body...